John “The Player” Mayer (and I’m not referring to his songs)

When I first heard John Mayer, I thought he was amazing. Then I heard one of his comments made at a live show somewhere. He said something along the lines of: Saying that you like the melody and the tune of a song, but you dont like the lyrics, is like saying, wow, thanks for the Bl#@ job, but it was a little toothy. I then began to think, what an ass! I’d rather listen to Gavin DeGraw, Jack Johnson, Ben Harper, Matt Costa, Jason Mraz, Matt Kearney….well, anyone but him!

Over time, I began to realise, that as much as I disliked him, I really thought he was a brilliant musician. I still think that – although his most recent “Playboy Interview” has made me realise that he just makes my skin crawl, for so many different reasons. I doubt I can ever listen to his music again without being creeped out. I can honestly say, If I met him, and for some reason he wanted to date me, I would say no. John Mayer – Jennifer Aniston is above you. I liked the sentiment in the begginning about wanting people to like him, it’s very important to him, because lets be honest – it’s important to most people. It gives him an air of normality. I also like what he said about Jennifer Aniston (because I have always been team Aniston). He said:  “I feel bad because people think “Heartbreak Warfare” is about her. I want to go on record saying it’s not. That woman would never use heartbreak warfare. That woman was the most communicative, sweetest, kindest person.”

 I always had a feeling that he only got with her to make himself more popular. A true player. Maybe I am wrong, maybe he really loved her – that is not up to me to decide. He did say after all “Have you ever loved somebody, loved her completely, but had to end the relationship for life reasons?” – referring to Aniston. I do like that he hasn’t talked about her, or her of him. I think it shows a certain ettiquite when celebrities keep their personal lives private. If only he had kept a little more private…. It seems he has a respect for Aniston, but his respect for women stops there. He said of his relationship with Jessica Simpson: “Sexually it was crazy… It was like napalm, sexual napalm”, “If you charged me $10,000 to f@#* you, I would start selling all my sh*@ just to keep f#@*^g you.” – wonder if Daddy Simpson read that?

What gets me, are the extrememly raw comments, like: “There have probably been days when I saw 300 vaginas before I got out of bed.” He speaks a lot about masturbation. Dude, if you do it, keep it to yourself. Don’t tell the world about the intricacies and how you see sex as merely masturbation because your only running a filmstrip of porn and past conquests in your mind anyhow. Wow – way to make a women feel wanted John. THAT is exactly why porn destroys relationships!

So not only is he a bit of a chauvanist and pornfreak, he’s also racist. Maybe he didn’t mean to use the N- word. For me it isn’t as big a problem cause it isn’t as racially charged in South Africa. Imagine he had said the “K” word? I would have be very angry. I even get angry when black people use it. It’s just not acceptable. When talking about being with a black woman, he says: I’m not open to it, “My d*#@ is sort of like a white supremacist.” Wow, racial slander much? I have always had a problem with people who will not cross the colour line, purely for colour. As a South African, I see a lot of racism, and it makes me really angry, because I have seen what it does to people. I know some people generally find someone else of their own colour more attractive, because it’s what they are used to. The attractive cues are learned from your surroundings and your culture, and have nothing to do with skin colour. I personally don’t find blonde men as attractive and brunettes, but I would date a blonde guy, it would be possible to be attracted to him for reasons other than his hair colour. Saying that you would not sleep with someone purely because of their skin colour….. is crossing a huge line! Comparing your Penis to the leader of the KKKlan, says even more. I am white, but I have a cousin who loves John Mayer. As a young black South African adopted by a white family, she has had to endure many racist comments like these. I hope that she never gets to read that article, cause it would really hurt her.

He says he sex live has been in decline (5 women since Aniston, which is only a few months): “Because now I don’t like jumping through hoops. It’s been so long since I’ve taken a random girl home. I don’t want to have to submit myself for approval. I don’t want to audition. I’d rather come home and edge my sh#@ out for 90 minutes.” Wow John, what a gentleman. That is the porn effect.

He has apologised for what he said, but the fact is, if you read the article, you realise he is playboy kinda guy. With regard to John Mayer, the only thing I would hit, is the “unfollow” button on twitter.  He would happily be Hugh Hefner in his old age. I don’t like Hugh Hefner….

Here is his apology :

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